Married life is simple when you know and you want to make it heavenly. But if you choose to be selfish and wants your spouse to cater to your every need, love you unconditionaly and give in to your every whim n fancy, then its going to be a disaster right from the start. I'm not being clever and know all but for the last 23 years I've used this pull n push, give and take method.
I am a super ego person to start with, who will want to get my way all the time. Talkative - non stop,my heart is ruled by my emotion, I have a very very strong intuition ( if I say MU will loose the game then 80% its going to be true.I TRULY DO NOT KNOW Y !!!...Pak Aji will jeleng me and say "Ibu, pls don't say it !!! " hahahaahah) I make first impression judgement ussualy its correct....emmmm ( P/s: But my super ego has diminish to 50% after 23 years. Thanks to my laling)
My other half is a quite person and its difficult to see him angry n be spiteful to anyone. A romantic~flower, chocolate etc. A pious man ( I learn Islam teachings, memorizes surah, listen to his jumaat khutbah, ceramahs n fardu Ain from him) He is my Ustad...Alhamdulillah. Its always I who blows my top with the kids. I am the disciplinarian in the family. No matter how hard I 'rotan' them, they''ll be no trace but if he canes them 100% sure , they will start having fever n the rotan trace is red n swollen !!?? So he stops caning a long time ago....
Be a giver not a taker. Be a appreciative hubby or wife. Show them how much you love him or her then only he will show back in return. Let it be an example to your kids so that they'll know that its acceptable to show love in the house.They will do it in their home later. A house with love is a house made in heaven. Have 'together' time , no kids allowed. At least once a week, pick a day and go out n do your things with out kids. Go for holidays , it does not have to be far. Choose somewhere near by and you do not have to take a long leave from work. Loosen up there and communicate more.