DIFFERENT PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT OUT LOOK TO LIFE.....

I can't seem to be able to fully understand some 16 to 17 year olds now days. I see it as a small issue but to them its as tho the world is going to explode in a second !!!! So they end up making silly mistakes and wasting precious time ...

They never want to listen to any advice ; from the person who gave birth to them and the person who provide food n shelter to them !!! They go about their problem their own way and end up making it more complicated ?? They make it as though its other peoples fault that it goes wrong . Its not their fault at all........

The cell phone is the numero uno of their life. They will die without it. They have no income but the phone is well kept with prepaids at all time n I might add, at all cost !!! ............ Where does this money come from ???

I was once a 16 n 17 year old . We were problematic but we listen to parents n elders. We try not to be too emotional. We try not to overly traumatise our mom n dad. We try to be responsible, to help out at home. We try to respect elders especially mom n dad as often as we could. Try to save where n when possible. We try to make a peace with our sibling n to love them when we could. To be precise , we try to be good teenagers whenever possible........

DO TEENAGERS HAVE TO BE PROBLEMATIC ???? CAN'T THEY BE LAW ABIDING,EASY TO HANDLE, POLITE, CLEVER, HARD WORKING AND A GEM TO PARENTS EYES ??

ACCEPT WHAT IS IN STORE FOR YOU......ALLAH KNOWS BEST.

We always want a rosy bed life, which is easy and no hurdles. You live a life full of happiness, wealth n health. But if suddenly all is taken back ; not all in the real sense but little bit, its as though Allah has taken away all of it !!! Please be reminded that when Allah bestows anything ; be it good or bad, its because Allah knows the said person is able to overcome and will obey n be close to Allah. Hardship is a way Allah wants us to remember that all are from Him and he is the only one to ask and who can help us human being. Its his way of giving bonus to those who adhere to his law....

It is all right for you to cry n loads off your feeling of sadness n grieve ; for he wants to listen and to tell all of us that he is always there to hear out what ever that we like to share with him. He is a patient listener and after listening he knows whats good for each and every one of us !!! That is how great he is !!! We are mere humans and we tend to forget that we are in His world and there is another place that all of us regardless of believe, religion n creed will assemble. At this place we shall know all our mistakes n good deeds that we've done.... Its going to be like a film show.

To obey is a simple act but humans like to test Allah's patience.He lets you do whatever you want but WAIT......There is a time and place before you'll be judge for all of your life's drama.

Be moderate in whatever you do. Try to be a good person and always be reminded that there is the day after............ This advice is for you and I.....ALMIGHTY-GOD IS GREAT ~ALLAH HU AKBAR

GIVE MORE AND YOU'LL RECEIVE IN ABUNDANCE.....

Married life is simple when you know and you want to make it heavenly. But if you choose to be selfish and wants your spouse to cater to your every need, love you unconditionaly and give in to your every whim n fancy, then its going to be a disaster right from the start. I'm not being clever and know all but for the last 23 years I've used this pull n push, give and take method.

I am a super ego person to start with, who will want to get my way all the time. Talkative - non stop,my heart is ruled by my emotion, I have a very very strong intuition ( if I say MU will loose the game then 80% its going to be true.I TRULY DO NOT KNOW Y !!!...Pak Aji will jeleng me and say "Ibu, pls don't say it !!! " hahahaahah) I make first impression judgement ussualy its correct....emmmm ( P/s: But my super ego has diminish to 50% after 23 years. Thanks to my laling)

My other half is a quite person and its difficult to see him angry n be spiteful to anyone. A romantic~flower, chocolate etc. A pious man ( I learn Islam teachings, memorizes surah, listen to his jumaat khutbah, ceramahs n fardu Ain from him) He is my Ustad...Alhamdulillah. Its always I who blows my top with the kids. I am the disciplinarian in the family. No matter how hard I 'rotan' them, they''ll be no trace but if he canes them 100% sure , they will start having fever n the rotan trace is red n swollen !!?? So he stops caning a long time ago....

But if its his turn to 'megamok' ( alaaaa.... compared to my tantrums, his is like spray of water je !!!) I will keep quite and let him finish his anger then I will cool him down with his favourite drink. Then I will slowly ask him why ? Shower him with 7 star treatment...... I motivate him and we share stories. I can never do anything bad because when I see his face, all the day happenings will pour out like rain water !!!! heheheeh .No secret withheld ...BAHAYA~~~~ DANGER... This I don't advice (part about no secret la)... heheheeheheh

Be a giver not a taker. Be a appreciative hubby or wife. Show them how much you love him or her then only he will show back in return. Let it be an example to your kids so that they'll know that its acceptable to show love in the house.They will do it in their home later. A house with love is a house made in heaven. Have 'together' time , no kids allowed. At least once a week, pick a day and go out n do your things with out kids. Go for holidays , it does not have to be far. Choose somewhere near by and you do not have to take a long leave from work. Loosen up there and communicate more.

What you don't say and share is 'cancerous' to your marriage. Make it a point to give a peck on the cheek or forehead before going to bed, waking up, before going to the office, before breakfast lunch , or dinner ; its your way of saying thanks to your wife after a good meal. She cook for you and its a way of appreaciating her. When you see something that you know she is fond of, just buy to surprise her. The art of surprising is a sure bet to make anybody happy n loved !!! I advice you to do this often. What is a few bucks when you can see the smile on your partner's face the whole day thru.............

Don't be a 'HJ BAKHIL' not in financial aspect but everything; show your love, don't be a judgmental freak, accept him or her as what she or he is. Don't expect them to change in a flash for you. Start educating them slowly and lovingly. It works as time pass on. Say nice n loving words. Don't be spiteful, its not vogue to let those ugly words come out of our mouth especially us ladies !! Even if he has done something unacceptable to you. Sit down and talk about it. Let him explain first then you judge him and decide the next course of action. Then only you are fair to him or her. We are created to have love in abundance, so let go and start being what we are made of !!! You're the chosen one for your other half and him or her for you, so make it a worth while investment my friends.....

MOTHERS take note !!! Please teach your son to be a loving husband to be. Appreciate woman especially your wife. I have 4 boys and I train them to do house work, cook heavenly rice and they are well verse in the kitchen, ironing my tudung, cooking simple food n d art of cleaning up after using anything. So I have 4 very well train husband to be !!! heheheeh. The dowry shall be high, like the hindustani ya..... Women give dowry and man wait to be ask for the hand in marriage. Any takers ?? HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

I'm not a Guru in married life. I am too a learner in the art of happy living but its a fool proof theory if you give love.You'll get more love coming your way. It doesn't cost u a single cent to make life bearable till the day you die. So why not invest ?? You choose to be miserable or happy ?

Last but not least COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE,COMMUNICATE... Let your feeling show. You are one with each other, if you feel the pain , he'll feel it too. COMPLIMENT each other n SUPPORT each other in sickness, in health and in wealth. If you have done all of this , then you will never go wrong. Smooth sail my friend..........

LIFE IS SHORT, WHY DO YOU NEED TO MAKE LIFE MISERABLE WHEN YOU CAN BE A HAPPY BIRD CHIPPING ALL THE WAY TO HEAVEN.......~~ SALUTE FROM AWIN

A 23 YEAR VOYAGE IN LIFE.......

Today is the 23rd year of my marriage to my soul mate Haji Nor Azmi. We do things together and we like to "jalan2" and "merayap" anywhere anytime all the time....heheheeh. We love good food and "jalan cari makan" is one thing that is considere an outing to taste and to discover new dishes to be cook at home after the first try.We have 5 also food lover children that we haveTO 100% rely on home cook food. Kalau x boleh bangkrap Pak Aji tu !!! So in the end , I have to cook a similar or better version of the said food !!! Its a matter of good taste bud and familiarity with all the spices and concoction that you know to be able to get the correct taste.

Our favourite past time is to do "surveys" on sunday morning @ Amcord Mall...That is a place considered a heaven for old timers like us. I buy my Vietnam Apple n seedless Guave here too !!! The trees are small but it bears fruit almost the whole year thru. For rm15 each, I consider it worth the money.Old Cd of oldies song attracts us to walk down the memory lane n to ponder the yester years...Basically we spent 4 - 5 hours there.Then we proceed to Cash Converter in Sea Park. You'll get good bargains and most of the time the goods are exceptionaly of good quality. I strongly advice to leisurely browse slowly because there are a lot of things there worth your time on a sunday morning......

The other thing that we like to do is sitting down to talk any topic 'under the sun' be it about old friends(we have the same friend as we go to the same school) food, life n future plans for our catering business. We can talk till our eyes shuts down and both fell asleep in between words !! To us communication between each other is an important component of a husband n wife team. If you both do not communicate then its going to be difficult to know what the other feel.Bring your emotion out, do not suppress your feeling because if you keep it under wrap and you do not confide in your partner then trouble will sip in slowly and after a while you'll drift further apart.... That we don't want....Agree ?

Both of us might not be well off but we are managing well because we try to save where we can. What other people get, we also have .if they can buy it in a month , then its going to be 2 @ maybe 3 for us !!! But its still the same thing, right ?? I am thankful that I have a good "banker' who handles our expenses well.

To my dearest Abang Bit, Happy 23rd Anniversary and I hope n pray that we are able to live happily ever after n become stronger as time goes by......Love you with all my heart and please be my best friend till eternity or till death do us part.....